It doesn’t pay to be a freak.

Today’s episode is all about it doesn’t pay to be a freak. It’s always nice to have a freak in the bedroom but sometimes you have to draw the line. If you’re looking for a housewife, then stay off the freak dating sites. Check out episode number twelve to find out why. Click the picture to listen.

White guy and black girl at a bar drinking red wine and cheers at the same time.

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So until we meet again my dear Friend, “Stay Cool, Classy, and Keep on Killing it. NEVER give up! NEVER be denied! You’re NEVER too old! NEVER look back!

With love,

Kimberly

12 Benefits of Turmeric

Over 40 remaining ageless turmeric smoothie three tablets of turmeric

Here are the 12 benefits of turmeric.

  1. Inflammation – There is an active ingredient in this supplement, curcumin which helps with the flare-up of inflammation.
  2. Supports healthy joints. It promotes overall joint health and mobility.
  3. Promotes a healthy heart
  4. Increases healthy cholesterol levels
  5. Boost stress tolerance. Helps with the overall health of the cardiovascular system
  6. Promotes radiant skin…my favorite!
  7. Helps with promoting a healthy brain
  8. Improves mood. The curcumin helps to reduce symptoms of mild mood changes.
  9. Helps with weight loss. Curcumin can influence weight management
  10. Supports a healthy metabolism
  11. Soothes the digestive system
  12. Optimizes vitality – It’s a powerful antioxidant that fights excess free radicals in the body that can damage cells and diminish your health.

The turmeric with curcumin with organic black pepper has been a lifesaver for me with my knees. I could barely walk. Once I started taking the supplement I noticed within a week a huge difference with my walking. The pain started to decrease. I highly recommend this supplement. It’s not your ordinary over the counter turmeric. It’s better.

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So until we meet again my dear Friend, “Stay Cool, Classy and Keep on Killing it. NEVER give up! NEVER be denied! You’re NEVER too old! NEVER look back!

With love,

Kimberly

Long Distance Relationships

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Online dating results in long-distance relationships. I myself do not believe in long-distance relationships for a couple of reasons which I discuss in the podcast. So, grab your headphones, your cocktail, coffee, or water and check out the podcast by clicking the picture.

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I would love to have you on the show. Let’s chit chat about your topic before we schedule a time for recording. You can email me at info@kimberlyannhawes.com. In the subject line put “interview.”

So until we meet again my dear Friend, “Stay Cool, Classy and Keep on Killing it. NEVER give up! NEVER be denied! You’re NEVER too old! NEVER look back!

With love,

Kimberly

Will I see him again?

Chivalry is not dead! There are still a lot of Gentlemen out here!  I had a lunch meeting with a very affluent Gentleman!

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His gear was impeccable which was the first thing I noticed, then it was the incredible aroma of his cologne which was Bvlgari.

After lunch, I was excited that I secured a client but a little disappointed that our lunch meeting consisted of nothing but industry (real estate, developing/investing, imports & exports) talk! There was a lot of uncomfortable silence and no laughter! I’m not quite sure why I was disappointed. I’m not ready for a relationship or anything casual.

It could have been that I was under the impression from a reliable source he wanted to get to know me personally. That bit of information piqued my interest because of his demeanor; powerful, elegant and he was a Gentleman.

When we got back to the office pleasantries were exchanged and I went on with my day! This all took place on Thursday.

Friday afternoon rolls around I received a phone call from him. A dinner invitation was offered! It took me a while to commit since our lunch meeting was so much fun. I couldn’t handle any more excitement.

However, my good friend Jack Daniels reassured me it would be a much better experience with his presence! So I accepted.

This was one of the most incredible, I don’t want to say a date, so let’s go with, “night out” that I’ve had in a long time. First, we went clothes shopping. This was his first time visiting Pittsburgh and him being an urbane Gentleman, he wanted to check out some of our men’s clothiers!

After shopping we went to dinner, he knew from our conversation and my order at lunch I’m a very picky eater. He made sure the restaurant of choice was to my liking! In my opinion, this was so Gentlemanly, for him not knowing my city, he made it a point to find an eatery for a finicky person.

Our lunch meeting was boring, dull, and painful!

Our dinner “thing” was truly amazing! There was witty repartee, laughter, sarcasm, and no industry talk!

It was like night and day! He was so charismatic, engaging, kind, and to top it off he looked amazing. He was rocking a custom-made black suit jacket, a muted gray luxury shirt, a pocket square that was so stunning with black dress pants.

His shoe and watch game was off the chain. He was rocking Tom Ford loafers with an Audemars Piguet watch with a brilliant selection of wrist-wear that not only matched his watch but his pocket square. This is what I would call chic casual all wrapped up in one.

The dinner lasted 3 hours. We both were amazed, at how time passed so effortlessly. He took me home and walked me inside to make sure everything was okay. He kissed me on the cheek and said be ready tomorrow at 10 am (Saturday). In a very seductive and calm voice, he said, “I have something special planned that I know you’re going to love!” I was floored for two reasons.

First, in the car, we listened to old-school hip-hop. No, I take that back we both sang and car danced (where only your hands and torso are moving) to songs like Rock Box, Sometimes I Rhyme Slow, Five Minutes of Funk, then we shut it down with Children’s Story. Second, he was so sure of himself that he made plans for the next day. I love a man who takes charge.

Saturday was incredible. We went to the Carnegie Museum.

We had a late lunch at Max & Erma’s another favorite spot of mine, which he loved. It was an early evening since he was heading to Chicago in the morning for a charity event.

He drove me home, walked me inside and he wanted a tour of my house! Fine! I gave him a glass of wine to sip on while we sauntered through my humble abode. With another kiss on the cheek, a little idle chit-chat, and then he was gone. But his scent lingered for hours.

Will I ever see him again? Who knows? Our business is done. Would it have even worked out? Who knows? Unless he decided to move to Pittsburgh or Charleston, SC, then that would’ve been a different story!

Did we exchange personal information? Nope! I have his contact information at the office! What I really liked about him, he only had one social media account that he barely used! How did I know? Professionally I research all of my clients. I like to find out their interests so I can establish a common ground and generate conversations.

I never asked him about his social media accounts. He elaborated on how much he disliked social media. He said it was ruining our communication skills. He went on to say it has also disrupted the way we conduct business. This conversation was provoked after we witnessed a couple at lunch more engaged in their phones than with one another.

I will say this, those two days had me thinking. Am I ready for a relationship? Or was it nice just going out with someone new and having some good ole fashion fun?

I labeled this date in my diary as the Reserved who rattled the Recluse!

Lessons learned:

  1. Chivalry isn’t dead!
  2. Gentlemen Rock!
  3. Don’t confuse business with pleasure!
  4. Don’t rush or jump to conclusions too fast!
  5. Gentlemen have patience!
  6. Let the Man be a Man!
  7. Never rush a Gentleman!
  8. Let the Gentleman take charge!
  9. Just go with the flow without labels, whatever happens, happens!
  10. Real Gentlemen are just downright smooth and captivating without it being forced or phony.

Well Ladies and Gentlemen, let’s chit-chat about this. What are your thoughts? You can leave your comment in the section below. I’m looking forward to hearing what you think.

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So until we meet again my dear Friend, “Stay Cool, Classy, and Keep on Killing it. NEVER give up! NEVER be denied! You’re NEVER too old! NEVER look back!

With love,

Kimberly

Cheers!

Everything is better, “Over Cocktails or Coffee!” ~~kah

Living a natural lifestyle with “Lavender”

It’s tough living a life as a creative person. Don’t get me wrong I’m blessed with this stress. However, I would love my gifts even more if I could sleep properly.

Over 40 lavender and white rolled up with lavender rocks and soap.

Here are ten ways you can live a natural lifestyle with lavender. I want to point out that number three is my favorite.

Being a creative entrepreneur, it’s really hard to calm your mind when it’s time to sleep. You have meetings in the morning. There’s a last-minute workshop you have to teach due to a cancellation. And you’re taking care of an elderly parent. So what’s one to do when you need to get a couple of hours of sleep?

This tip (number three) will help you calm your thoughts that will allow you to drift off into la-la land. I want you to grab a spray bottle, add a couple of drops of lavender oil to distilled water and mist your pillow before sleepy time.

Lavender oil like coconut oil can be listed as a “jack of all trades” oil. Of course, it smells divine but it is also instrumental in remaining ageless and promoting a healthy and natural lifestyle. So instead of just giving you one useful way to use lavender, here are nine more.

  1. Eliminate nausea – Breathe in the lavender oil, straight from the bottle, and exhale. Inhale and then exhale about 3 times more if you desire. Then dab the oil on your tummy, temples, and wrists, this too will aid in eliminating nausea.
  2. I say this all time, people will take care of their face and neck but forget their lips. Having dry, chapped, and cracked lips are very unappealing and it shows your age just like your hands. This can affect all ages. To soften those lips up by mixing a tablespoon of lavender oil with a 1/2 teaspoon of sugar, rub on your lips to exfoliate and get rid of the dead skin for a smooth, sexier, and healthier look. Rinse with warm, then apply a small amount of lavender oil to your lips like a gloss.  You can check out my blog post on healthy and sexy lips.
  3. Do your thoughts race at night? Do you toss and turn trying to doze off into la-la land? Are you into natural remedies instead of over-the-counter sleep aids? Well, lavender oil is your answer. Grab a spray bottle, apply a couple of drops to 8 ounces of distilled water, and mist your pillow. This faint scent will settle those thoughts and send you off into a peaceful sleep.
  4. While we’re on the subject of settling those thoughts, sometimes our thoughts overtake us and we find ourselves not being able to concentrate. Lavender oil to the rescue. Again inhale the lavender oil but mix it with a little peppermint or my fav gardenia oil. As stated in #3, the lavender oil will help you calm your mind and will help you focus on a single thought by quieting all the other noise that’s vying for your attention.
  5. Soothe your sunburn by applying a couple of drops of lavender oil to the affected area. The oil will help reduce redness and soothe the pain.
  6. Clean those cuts and sanitize those scars, oils have antibacterial, anti-viral, and anti-microbial functions. Soak a cotton ball with lavender oil and apply it on the cut or scar, it will act as a natural disinfectant.
  7. It’s Summertime and our little furry friends are bothered and bitten by pesky bugs. Massage a couple of drops of lavender oil on your pet’s fur to calm their itchy skin and to keep at bay other pesky bugs especially the fleas.
  8. Those pesky bugs don’t discriminate they come after us humans as well. Once bitten, rub a couple of drops of the oil onto the itchy bug bit for natural soothing relief.
  9. Oily face? Want to clear up that complexion? First, let me say chemically manufactured facial cleansers strip skin of its natural oils. I recommend adding a couple of drops of lavender

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    oil to a non-clogging moisturizer, click here to purchase my recommendation, Pure JoJoba (A superfine natural moisturizer, Jojoba penetrates easily, nourishing, softening, and protecting the skin without clogging the pores) after you wash your face to restore natural moisture. This is especially good during the summer months.

  10. Saving the best for last, reducing wrinkles. The moisturizing agents in lavender oil help keep the skin firm and supple.  Grab that spray bottle of lavender oil and distilled water and mist your face or the desired area.

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So until we meet again my dear Friend, “Stay Cool, Classy, and Keep on Killing it. NEVER give up! NEVER be denied! You’re NEVER too old! NEVER look back!

With love,

Kimberly

Cheers!

Everything is better, “Over Cocktails or Coffee!” ~~kah

Craving Pittsburgh-soul food “Z’Best”

When it comes to food, I have two favorites, soul food, and cupcakes. Whenever I travel, I compile a list of soul food places and bakeries in the city I’m traveling to so I can check’em out.  I must say Italian food and a really good hoagie are right up there but not holding the number one spot.

I first tried Z’Best ribs when they were on Herron Avenue (Hill District). I was so happy when I found out they were moving to Fifth Ave (Lower Hill). They are both located in the Pittsburgh area. Let me rephrase that, I was happy but my hourglass figure isn’t, and let me tell you why.

I’m a very picky eater so no matter where I go I stick to the same order; ribs with mild sauce but in their case, I added the orange sauce. My sides always include macaroni and cheese and string beans. I will get cornbread but I love white bread with my ribs. I dip the bread in the sauce, OH MY GOSH pure heaven.

Don’t get me wrong, there are other rib places here in Pittsburgh and I will be sure to give you the 411 on them as well. However, Z’Best is the place for me. Don’t just take my word, go see for yourself.

Here’s a link to their menu and their website is right below. You can also connect with them on social media (links can be found on their website).

Z’Best Barbeque Chicken & Ribs
1315 Fifth Avenue
Pittsburgh, PA 15219
zbestbbq.com
412-235-7163

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So until we meet again my dear Friend, “Stay Cool, Classy, and Keep on Killing it. NEVER give up! NEVER be denied! You’re NEVER too old! NEVER look back!

With love,

Kimberly

Bon Appétit & Cheers!

Everything is better, “Over Cocktails or Coffee!” ~~kah

First Date Tips by a Steel City Chick

Hey everyone, I must say this is a pretty cool P’cast. I give you five tips on shutting down the bougie chick, what guys should do to see if he’s with the right lady on either their first, second, or third date.

a man handing a lady a rose in the evening with lights in the background

I also give you my tip on how to organically meet someone and give him your phone number and a tip on not what to do.

Are you ready for those tips? You can click the play above and listen. As a side note, sometimes it takes a couple of seconds to get started, so be a little patient. You can click the picture to listen.

Enjoy!

Well Ladies and Gentlemen, let’s chit-chat about this. What are your thoughts? You can leave your comment in the section below. I’m looking forward to hearing what you think.

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So until we meet again my dear Friend, “Stay Cool, Classy, and Keep on Killing it. NEVER give up! NEVER be denied! You’re NEVER too old! NEVER look back!

With love,

Kimberly

Cheers!
Kimberly Ann Hawes
KH

Cheers!

Everything is better, “Over Cocktails or Coffee!” ~~kah

Envy…

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I’m not a poet, far from it. So, this little poem is not “poetically” correct but it’s how I felt at the time I was reminiscing on how far I’ve come since my mid-life crisis. It’s been a long journey in regaining the Over 40 & Killing it® Lifestyle. I’ve made it! I styled and wrote my way to success in 365 days. Success doesn’t happen overnight.

I am still sauntering down the streets of success, it’s never-ending. I do stop from time to time, to absorb all the beautiful things around me and to give thanks for all I have.

The greatest feeling is living in this new chapter of my life without the frienemies and jealous individuals I befriended during my mid-life crisis.

I can’t blame them for my demise, that was all me. However, I do thank them for their envious behavior, their empty dreams, and their no ambition attitude. That was the driving force that catapulted me into aggressively going after my dreams and becoming a Jeans & a Tee, CEO of Over 40 & Killing it®.

Sometimes before I go to bed I think about the past couple of years and all I can do is shake my head at what I’ve been through and the people I encountered.

I haven’t spoken to any of my mid-life crisis frienemies but from time to time I get a glimpse into some of their lives via Facebook. They are just as I left them but older with sad souls.

They are doing the same things, living the same unproductive lifestyle and wasting money they don’t have just as they were 7 years ago when I first met them.

It’s sad a couple of them had true potential to achieve so much more than what they settled for. And with that being said…I wrote this poem on December 31, 2014, while reminiscing about years past, in honor of my frienemies!

What do I have that you want
I’m just like you
When you see me I don’t flaunt
But inside you brew

Hard work, patience, discipline
that’s all you need from what I see
to transform that arson
that burns so deep inside you have for me

What do I have that you want
I earned what I have
so take your envious taunts,
turn them into your wants

Your Mind, Heart, and Soul
will take you to the top
Take a survey, Take a poll
it will show you not to stop

Love your life not mine
Your next act, your action plan
will be well worth your time
You will have what I have,
And maybe your first fan!

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So until we meet again my dear Friend, “Stay Cool, Classy, and Keep on Killing it. NEVER give up! NEVER be denied! You’re NEVER too old! NEVER look back!

With love,

Kimberly

Cheers!

Everything is better, “Over Cocktails or Coffee!” ~~kah

4 tips on how to deal with the heart & brain battle

When it comes to your dreams, your passions, follow your heart. When it comes to matters in dealing with friends, family, lovers, this is where the heart and brain begin to battle. My advice to you, from past experiences, listen to the brain.

I pride myself on my cold and calculating personality when it comes to making decisions. People who know me very well changed my middle name from Ann to Asshole. I’m okay with that. Once in a while, my heart will melt. I am human. When it does melt I’m kicking myself in the ass every time! It only happens once or twice a year, thank the Heavens for that!

The heart feels. The brain foresees. The brain knows the negative impact you will endure after the action you were contemplating is completed.

You will thank your brain in the long run, instead of second-guessing your action and feeling like a fool for following your heart.

When you’re contemplating an action that is based on feelings, never;

  1. Make that decision when you’re feeling vulnerable,
  2. When your mood maybe a little out of balance.
  3. Be patient and wait it out.
  4. During the wait, meditate and visualize the outcome you have chosen or what you want to happen

That wait and visualization will be the best thing for you.

I recently experienced the heart and brain battle. I felt that my seize the moment may have past.  This was a heart moment. I thought I may never have the chance to say how I felt and what my intentions were. An affair of the heart.

I was able to think through the outcome of my intended actions. I decided that my actions would’ve had a negative outcome.

There will always be that what-if question. That reoccurring thought of the unknown. These will pass.

You’ll thank me in the end.

Never cut a tree down in the wintertime. Never make a negative decision in the low time. Never make your most important decisions when you are in your worst moods. Wait. Be patient. The storm will pass. The spring will come. ~~ Robert H. Schuller

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So until we meet again my dear Friend, “Stay Cool, Classy, and Keep on Killing it. NEVER give up! NEVER be denied! You’re NEVER too old! NEVER look back!

With love,

Kimberly

Cheers!

Everything is better, “Over Cocktails or Coffee!” ~~kah

Clean your kidneys

Let’s start the “Health & Fitness” section by cleaning your kidneys… People ask me all the time how do you look so young.  Well, I’m going to share my secrets. Even when I was going through my mid-life crisis, I still held everything intact, skin, style, and health. Everything else fell apart but I kept those intact.

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Our kidneys are filtering the blood by removing salt, poison, and any unwanted toxins entering our body. With time, the salt accumulates and this needs to undergo cleaning treatments and how are we going to overcome this?

It is very easy, first, take a bunch of parsley or Cilantro (Coriander Leaves) and wash it clean, then cut it into small pieces and put it in a pot and pour clean water and boil it for ten minutes and let it cool down and then filter it and pour in a clean bottle and keep it in the refrigerator to cool.

Drink one glass daily and you will notice all salt and other accumulated poison coming out of your kidney by urination also you will be able to notice the difference which you never felt before.

Parsley (Cilantro) is known as the best cleaning treatment for kidneys and it is natural!

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With love,

Kimberly

Cheers!

Everything is better, “Over Cocktails or Coffee!” ~~kah