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Thoughts Of A Lonely Heart

I want to talk about being single. It’s tough being single and over 40. The dating pool is shrinking. Our confidence is shot especially when you put yourself out there via dating services, blind dates or organically trying to meet someone. When no one is responding to your online presence or if you’re out and about and you find it hard to meet the opposite sex, it can kill your self-confidence.

What happened to me stuck with me for a while. If it weren’t for my writing, I would have been an emotional wreck. My pain and sorrows went into my dating diary. Take a look at how I poured my heart into my writing, “Thoughts of a lonely heart.”

I hear a lot about being ghosted. Here we have men and women who want to date a lot of people before choosing one person or they’re not interested in you they disappear without giving you a reason.

What happens if you’re dating someone and you catch feelings?

That’s what happened to me. I met someone organically and caught feelings. I saw him every Friday at the supermarket. We finally decided to exchange phone numbers and pick a place for a coffee date.

We had a couple of phone conversations. The conversations were lopsided but enjoyable. I carried the conversations. It didn’t bother me. The type of job he had, he worked 90 plus hours a week. He didn’t have a lot of life experiences being at his job for 25 years and working a considerable amount of overtime, didn’t allow him much of a personal life.

After our coffee date, I didn’t see him for two months. We talked on the phone when he decided to call. When I called him, he wouldn’t answer nor call me back. It wasn’t all the time but it happened more often than it should have.

We would make plans but they got canceled, due to him working overtime or the weather. This all happened during the winter months.

When we finally had our second date, we had a ball. He was such a gentleman. He was so attentive. He made me feel so special. I saw myself being with him on an intimate level that never happened. Listen to that inner voice.

Our conversations when we had them consisted of him telling me how much he loved being around me. I needed to be taken care of. I deserved to be pampered. I mean he was really pouring it on. He would send me a good morning text every day.

Then what little phone calls I would get stopped. The good morning text he sent every morning stopped. He never invited me to his house. Things weren’t adding up. The red flags were flying.

My feelings were hurt. I really thought I found someone who I could be with. I was so wrong.

Needless to say, he stopped calling me and that was it. I go into this relationship a little more in my book Over 40 And Killing It, which will be out before the New Year. I look forward to you reading it.

Check out the poetry that got me through my heartache by clicking here. I’m not a poet but I wrote from the heart.

You can listen to the podcast on iTunesSpotify, Amazon, or Pandora.

Don’t forget to join me on Instagram, Twitter, and the Facebook page. I also have a YouTube channel. I will be adding videos very soon so subscribe and hit the notification button so you’ll be notified when the videos come out. Don’t forget to sign up for the emails to get on the VIP list.

So until we meet again my dear Friend, “Stay Cool, Classy, and Keep on Killing it. NEVER give up! NEVER be denied! You’re NEVER too old! NEVER look back!

With love,

Kimberly

P.S. If you’re going through a situation or just need someone to talk to sign up for a consultation with me by using my online calendar. I would love to chit chat with you. Don’t hesitate to call or do a video call.

Dating Resume

Kimberly Ann Hawes, Over 40 dating, Online dating, finding that special someone

Are you ready to leave singlesville? I have the perfect tool for you. The dating resume. It’s a really cool tool. What I’ve done is use my own preferences as an example to help you through filling it out.

Now, remember these are “my” preferences. Be creative and put what you’re looking for. Make sure you’re honest with yourself and realistic. All you have to do is click here and you’ll be on your way.

Good luck

P.S. If you would like to schedule a consultation because you need help filling out the resume. Or you want to talk about your dating dilemmas click below to schedule a consultation. There’s a special going on right now. Take advantage of the offer. Buy your consultation now then come back and schedule.

Why can’t a good man find a good woman?

Yes, even men want to find a good woman. Trust me the good women are out there. The question is where do they hang out? Everywhere. You have to step out of your comfort zone and talk. Women will let you know if they are interested in you with eye contact.  

If you’re a Godly man you’ll attract a Godly woman which equates to a good woman.

I know it’s tough but you have to put yourself out there. You can do online dating or what I prefer the traditional way. 

Either way, stay positive and use your head. Click the picture to listen.

You can listen to the podcast on iTunesSpotify, Amazon, or Pandora.

Don’t forget to join me on Instagram, Twitter, and the Facebook page. I also have a YouTube channel. I will be adding videos very soon so subscribe and hit the notification button so you’ll be notified when the videos come out. Don’t forget to sign up for the emails to get on the VIP list.

So until we meet again my dear Friend, “Stay Cool, Classy, and Keep on Killing it. NEVER give up! NEVER be denied! You’re NEVER too old! NEVER look back!

With love,

Kimberly

The way men think and feel

We’re different men and women. Sometimes it’s hard to read a man and other times it’s pretty damn easy. What is one to do when you can’t read him. Why is he distancing himself from you? Is he really into me? Well, I dive into the ins and outs of men in this podcast. Click the picture to listen.

You can listen to the podcast on iTunesSpotify, Amazon, or Pandora.

Don’t forget to join me on Instagram, Twitter, and the Facebook page. I also have a YouTube channel. I will be adding videos very soon so subscribe and hit the notification button so you’ll be notified when the videos come out. Don’t forget to sign up for the emails to get on the VIP list.

I would love to have you on the show. Let’s chit chat about your topic before we schedule a time for recording. You can email me at info@kimberlyannhawes.com. In the subject line put “interview.”

So until we meet again my dear Friend, “Stay Cool, Classy, and Keep on Killing it. NEVER give up! NEVER be denied! You’re NEVER too old! NEVER look back!

With love,

Kimberly

It doesn’t pay to be a freak.

Today’s episode is all about it doesn’t pay to be a freak. It’s always nice to have a freak in the bedroom but sometimes you have to draw the line. If you’re looking for a housewife, then stay off the freak dating sites. Check out episode number twelve to find out why. Click the picture to listen.

White guy and black girl at a bar drinking red wine and cheers at the same time.

You can listen to the podcast on iTunesSpotify, Amazon, or Pandora.

Don’t forget to join me on Instagram, Twitter, and the Facebook page. I also have a YouTube channel. I will be adding videos very soon so subscribe and hit the notification button so you’ll be notified when the videos come out. Don’t forget to sign up for the emails to get on the VIP list.

So until we meet again my dear Friend, “Stay Cool, Classy, and Keep on Killing it. NEVER give up! NEVER be denied! You’re NEVER too old! NEVER look back!

With love,

Kimberly

Long Distance Relationships

`Over 40 two hands pulling on a heart

Online dating results in long-distance relationships. I myself do not believe in long-distance relationships for a couple of reasons which I discuss in the podcast. So, grab your headphones, your cocktail, coffee, or water and check out the podcast by clicking the picture.

You can listen to the podcast on iTunesSpotify, Amazon, or Pandora.

Don’t forget to join me on Instagram, Twitter, and the Facebook page. I also have a YouTube channel. I will be adding videos very soon so subscribe and hit the notification button so you’ll be notified when the videos come out. Don’t forget to sign up for the emails to get on the VIP list.

I would love to have you on the show. Let’s chit chat about your topic before we schedule a time for recording. You can email me at info@kimberlyannhawes.com. In the subject line put “interview.”

So until we meet again my dear Friend, “Stay Cool, Classy and Keep on Killing it. NEVER give up! NEVER be denied! You’re NEVER too old! NEVER look back!

With love,

Kimberly

Will I see him again?

Chivalry is not dead! There are still a lot of Gentlemen out here!  I had a lunch meeting with a very affluent Gentleman!

Two people drinking red wine on a date they are doing cheers with their glasses

His gear was impeccable which was the first thing I noticed, then it was the incredible aroma of his cologne which was Bvlgari.

After lunch, I was excited that I secured a client but a little disappointed that our lunch meeting consisted of nothing but industry (real estate, developing/investing, imports & exports) talk! There was a lot of uncomfortable silence and no laughter! I’m not quite sure why I was disappointed. I’m not ready for a relationship or anything casual.

It could have been that I was under the impression from a reliable source he wanted to get to know me personally. That bit of information piqued my interest because of his demeanor; powerful, elegant and he was a Gentleman.

When we got back to the office pleasantries were exchanged and I went on with my day! This all took place on Thursday.

Friday afternoon rolls around I received a phone call from him. A dinner invitation was offered! It took me a while to commit since our lunch meeting was so much fun. I couldn’t handle any more excitement.

However, my good friend Jack Daniels reassured me it would be a much better experience with his presence! So I accepted.

This was one of the most incredible, I don’t want to say a date, so let’s go with, “night out” that I’ve had in a long time. First, we went clothes shopping. This was his first time visiting Pittsburgh and him being an urbane Gentleman, he wanted to check out some of our men’s clothiers!

After shopping we went to dinner, he knew from our conversation and my order at lunch I’m a very picky eater. He made sure the restaurant of choice was to my liking! In my opinion, this was so Gentlemanly, for him not knowing my city, he made it a point to find an eatery for a finicky person.

Our lunch meeting was boring, dull, and painful!

Our dinner “thing” was truly amazing! There was witty repartee, laughter, sarcasm, and no industry talk!

It was like night and day! He was so charismatic, engaging, kind, and to top it off he looked amazing. He was rocking a custom-made black suit jacket, a muted gray luxury shirt, a pocket square that was so stunning with black dress pants.

His shoe and watch game was off the chain. He was rocking Tom Ford loafers with an Audemars Piguet watch with a brilliant selection of wrist-wear that not only matched his watch but his pocket square. This is what I would call chic casual all wrapped up in one.

The dinner lasted 3 hours. We both were amazed, at how time passed so effortlessly. He took me home and walked me inside to make sure everything was okay. He kissed me on the cheek and said be ready tomorrow at 10 am (Saturday). In a very seductive and calm voice, he said, “I have something special planned that I know you’re going to love!” I was floored for two reasons.

First, in the car, we listened to old-school hip-hop. No, I take that back we both sang and car danced (where only your hands and torso are moving) to songs like Rock Box, Sometimes I Rhyme Slow, Five Minutes of Funk, then we shut it down with Children’s Story. Second, he was so sure of himself that he made plans for the next day. I love a man who takes charge.

Saturday was incredible. We went to the Carnegie Museum.

We had a late lunch at Max & Erma’s another favorite spot of mine, which he loved. It was an early evening since he was heading to Chicago in the morning for a charity event.

He drove me home, walked me inside and he wanted a tour of my house! Fine! I gave him a glass of wine to sip on while we sauntered through my humble abode. With another kiss on the cheek, a little idle chit-chat, and then he was gone. But his scent lingered for hours.

Will I ever see him again? Who knows? Our business is done. Would it have even worked out? Who knows? Unless he decided to move to Pittsburgh or Charleston, SC, then that would’ve been a different story!

Did we exchange personal information? Nope! I have his contact information at the office! What I really liked about him, he only had one social media account that he barely used! How did I know? Professionally I research all of my clients. I like to find out their interests so I can establish a common ground and generate conversations.

I never asked him about his social media accounts. He elaborated on how much he disliked social media. He said it was ruining our communication skills. He went on to say it has also disrupted the way we conduct business. This conversation was provoked after we witnessed a couple at lunch more engaged in their phones than with one another.

I will say this, those two days had me thinking. Am I ready for a relationship? Or was it nice just going out with someone new and having some good ole fashion fun?

I labeled this date in my diary as the Reserved who rattled the Recluse!

Lessons learned:

  1. Chivalry isn’t dead!
  2. Gentlemen Rock!
  3. Don’t confuse business with pleasure!
  4. Don’t rush or jump to conclusions too fast!
  5. Gentlemen have patience!
  6. Let the Man be a Man!
  7. Never rush a Gentleman!
  8. Let the Gentleman take charge!
  9. Just go with the flow without labels, whatever happens, happens!
  10. Real Gentlemen are just downright smooth and captivating without it being forced or phony.

Well Ladies and Gentlemen, let’s chit-chat about this. What are your thoughts? You can leave your comment in the section below. I’m looking forward to hearing what you think.

You can listen to the podcast on iTunesSpotify, Amazon, or Pandora.

Don’t forget to join me on Instagram, Twitter, and the Facebook page. I also have a YouTube channel. I will be adding videos very soon so subscribe and hit the notification button so you’ll be notified when the videos come out. Don’t forget to sign up for the emails to get on the VIP list.

So until we meet again my dear Friend, “Stay Cool, Classy, and Keep on Killing it. NEVER give up! NEVER be denied! You’re NEVER too old! NEVER look back!

With love,

Kimberly

Cheers!

Everything is better, “Over Cocktails or Coffee!” ~~kah

Craving Pittsburgh-soul food “Z’Best”

When it comes to food, I have two favorites, soul food, and cupcakes. Whenever I travel, I compile a list of soul food places and bakeries in the city I’m traveling to so I can check’em out.  I must say Italian food and a really good hoagie are right up there but not holding the number one spot.

I first tried Z’Best ribs when they were on Herron Avenue (Hill District). I was so happy when I found out they were moving to Fifth Ave (Lower Hill). They are both located in the Pittsburgh area. Let me rephrase that, I was happy but my hourglass figure isn’t, and let me tell you why.

I’m a very picky eater so no matter where I go I stick to the same order; ribs with mild sauce but in their case, I added the orange sauce. My sides always include macaroni and cheese and string beans. I will get cornbread but I love white bread with my ribs. I dip the bread in the sauce, OH MY GOSH pure heaven.

Don’t get me wrong, there are other rib places here in Pittsburgh and I will be sure to give you the 411 on them as well. However, Z’Best is the place for me. Don’t just take my word, go see for yourself.

Here’s a link to their menu and their website is right below. You can also connect with them on social media (links can be found on their website).

Z’Best Barbeque Chicken & Ribs
1315 Fifth Avenue
Pittsburgh, PA 15219
zbestbbq.com
412-235-7163

You can listen to the podcast on iTunesSpotify, Amazon, or Pandora.

Don’t forget to join me on Instagram, Twitter, and the Facebook page. I also have a YouTube channel. I will be adding videos very soon so subscribe and hit the notification button so you’ll be notified when the videos come out. Don’t forget to sign up for the emails to get on the VIP list.

So until we meet again my dear Friend, “Stay Cool, Classy, and Keep on Killing it. NEVER give up! NEVER be denied! You’re NEVER too old! NEVER look back!

With love,

Kimberly

Bon Appétit & Cheers!

Everything is better, “Over Cocktails or Coffee!” ~~kah

First Date Tips by a Steel City Chick

Hey everyone, I must say this is a pretty cool P’cast. I give you five tips on shutting down the bougie chick, what guys should do to see if he’s with the right lady on either their first, second, or third date.

a man handing a lady a rose in the evening with lights in the background

I also give you my tip on how to organically meet someone and give him your phone number and a tip on not what to do.

Are you ready for those tips? You can click the play above and listen. As a side note, sometimes it takes a couple of seconds to get started, so be a little patient. You can click the picture to listen.

Enjoy!

Well Ladies and Gentlemen, let’s chit-chat about this. What are your thoughts? You can leave your comment in the section below. I’m looking forward to hearing what you think.

You can listen to the podcast on iTunesSpotify, Amazon, or Pandora.

Don’t forget to join me on Instagram, Twitter, and the Facebook page. I also have a YouTube channel. I will be adding videos very soon so subscribe and hit the notification button so you’ll be notified when the videos come out. Don’t forget to sign up for the emails to get on the VIP list.

So until we meet again my dear Friend, “Stay Cool, Classy, and Keep on Killing it. NEVER give up! NEVER be denied! You’re NEVER too old! NEVER look back!

With love,

Kimberly

Cheers!
Kimberly Ann Hawes
KH

Cheers!

Everything is better, “Over Cocktails or Coffee!” ~~kah